Let me preface this post with this. My house is a complete disaster and I am loving it, you will find out why in a moment. Let me also state that Mike is on a man weekend with his boyfriends.
So Mike left Friday morning to go to a cabin with his friends from church and he will be coming home tomorrow sometime. This has become an annual event. So this year I got the wonderful idea that I knew by Saturday night I might be at my whits end and maybe I wasn't the only one. Ding ding ding, let's all go off the deep end together. So we had a mom, kids, pizza and wine party. Amazing! Not only did our kids want a little mix in their weekend but I think the moms needed to sit and have a little vent as well. We were not husband bashing, too much, I promise. As we talked about the guys weekend I began to think and this is the question I pose....
Why is it so hard for us as women to take time to ourselves and bond with other women away from our kids? And if it is not hard for you and you don't feel a pinch of guilt please feel free to comment on this post and fill me in. :)
Seriously, do we feel like we are the only ones who can run our household and take care of our kids? Am I the only one who feels that way? Seriously I have gotten better, but when Paige was a baby I would leave Mike a list of what Paige needed and when. What I should have done was let him feel his way through it, stop being a control freak. Right now part of my issue is that I am still nursing Owen and that is a huge tether to home. But as we were talking tonight, us ladies, we decided we just need to do it. And honestly I don't think our husbands would mind. Well maybe they would but you know what? They can have a dads, kids, pizza and beer party and sit back and look at a very messy house with a smile on their face.
In closing I will put it out there, I never edit my posts, this is more like an online journal. Please excuse the randomness!!
Read your post lady and love it! P.S. had a great time at your house, thanks for inviting us over. We don't care about the mess, your house being messy and not immaculate means that we can all relax with our crazy gaggle of children and know that toys everywhere are meant to be played with, Popsicle juice running down chins might get on carpet, and your doorknob might be slippery from children running indoors and out with greasy pizza fingers, but we can all come as we are.
ReplyDeleteLove you friend.
~ One comment that last night and your post made me think. So many times lately I'm telling my daughter to not worry about what other people are doing but worry about herself. "You are responsible for you" is a direct quote from myself to her. I've been thinking that I need to hear that told to me sometimes. Especially in a case where I am feeling jealous of my husband's time away or ability to just relax and enjoy himself and not worry about the laundry, dishes, messy house, to do list, children, etc...
I am responsible for me. I'm responsible for how I am choosing to feel. I can feel miserable, unhappy, unloved, un-cared for, (Which is exactly what Satan wants for Christians to be) or I can realize that I am loved, I can choose to be happy, I can find joy in my life and this world and to ask God to fill me. If I am depending on others to fill my heart with joy and love I will be disappointed every time. People are human, I am human and we all fail.
I say as women, we need to love each other, help each other and be gracious to ourselves. That is what our group of friends are to me and I am so lucky to have you all in my life.
I think we do need to sometimes just plan the weekend, go and let the dads find their way (even if it's not our way) and try the hardest we can to forget the laundry, the messy house, the dirty children and enjoy the moments away every once in a while. Also to remember that we are responsible for our self and that means taking care of ourselves too.